Transvestia

Because I knew little or nothing about it I naturally thought he was a homosexual. For 10 years and four babies later we kept up a front. He would dress when I wasn't around and I refused to discuss it with him,

The time came that we bought our first home. This changed a lot of things. The move was so drastic a change for me that I had to seek professional help. It was during one of the weekly sessions that I blurt- ed out my husband's problem. The doctor just looked at me and said I was the one who was creating a prob- lem. He told me, among other things, that my husband really loved me and that the frilly pretty things that he bought for me were really for me and not for himself. I used to feel that everything he would bring home was really for himself and that he only said they were for me. The poor guy really bent over backwards to please me and I was too blind to see it. I was misinterpreting everything he would do. This all happened 5 years ago and truthfully I can say it has improved every since that doctor straightened out my thinking. We've had a few back slides but our communication system is working 95% and I personally think that this is the key to many a TV couple's problems--lack of communication. If two people can communicate with each other they can solve anything together. Even when we were told to tell the children about their Dad, the fact that we could talk things out helped in deciding what to do. We still don't know if we did the right thing in tell- ing them but I must say it has brought us closer to- gether as a family. I don't advocate telling the children generally but we were put into a situation where it was the lesser of two evils.

More recently I sought the counceling of a priest in our parish about the situation. Up until then I guess I still had hopes of waking up some morning and finding out it was all a bad dream. The priest just looked at me and said, "Oh lady....just make up your mind it is here to stay and stop making problems where there aren't any."

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